Attraction is not a choice: Part 2

Now that you understand what attraction is; attraction is drawing an emotion out of a person, now let’s talk about how it can fit in your game. Attraction seems to be one of the early on sticking points that many people who are new to the game get caught up in. The entire attraction phase lasts from 1 minute to 4 minutes. The reason for this time is you are simply DHVing, negging and observing IOIs. The point is to get one IOI and then stack forward and being to qualify her.

Captain Jack says that once you have one IOI you have already gotten 10

..so be mindful and watch for her to respond.

Building attraction in your game is done though a process that is rather simple once you know the steps.

Step1) Being a DHV AND ground sequence with something short. An example of this is as follows:

“So every since I was little I would work on cars with my dad and it is a hobby that I carried over, so like I was working on my car the other day and a friend called to go to the beach and I was like sure man I will be right there.”

Do not use this DHV story it was thought up in two seconds but it does give you all an example of how you ground your story to your identity. This short story tell the listener that you and your father spend time together doing activates that you loved and it carried on. It also said that you put aside things because your friends are important and you are mechanically inclined. As you ground the story to your reality it allows the listener to feel like they know a bit about who you are and why you are the way you are. A good DHV story will raise more questions as well. For instance this short DHV story raises questions like, is your father still around, what kind of car do you have and how was the beach?

Step 2) Negging is a fine line that many people overdo. A neg is NOT an insult it is a backhanded complement. An example of this is as follows: “

You have beautiful eyes, especially the left one.”

A neg should make a person feel SLIGHT discomfort. If you over do this and believe me it is easy to do you will look like an arrogant piece of shit. One soft neg takes a girl way off of her high horse because girls of beauty are ALWAYS complemented and NEVER insulted unless it is their boyfriend, brother or father. If you want an example of what I mean look at ANY beautiful girl’s myspace and see all the picture comments of, “OMG you are so hot.” Your best bet is to ONLY use negs when she is unresponsive for IOIs.

Step 3) Observe IOIs. In any social interaction, you should be observing what is taking place with your own body language and body language of others around you as well. When it comes to a set make sure you are looking for an IOI so that you can get out of attraction because your time is MUCH better spend in comfort where the stakes of the game are much greater. Girls will VERY rarely sleep with you based on your looks but they WILL sleep with you if you are an easy person who be around who makes them FEEL comfortable. Sure, there is more to it then just that but this game has much more to do with comfort then attraction.

Attraction is essentially a small piece of bait that you use to bait them into comfort. As most of you know I am not a fan of routines BUT when you start out not understand how this game works then get a couple of routines like the cube or strawberry fields to help you elicit the responses that you want. Once you understand how attraction works, you will be able to reach into the last week of your life and simply talk about yourself and that alone will be a DHV. Your lifestyle should ALWAYS assist you in your pick up and if it is not then you are doing something wrong. What I mean by this is last week I met 6 new people at a local club, drove to Boston to meet up with a bunch of friends, saw the Pats in the AFC championship and went to the gym. All these things can easily be worded to show who I am and what I do in a light that builds attraction. If you keep in mind that to a female attraction is MUCH more about grooming, humor, value and social proof then it is about looks then you will understand how to build attraction from the beginning.

If you have questions, fire away.