Who am I? My journey to becoming a pick up artist

I grew up as a kid who was overweight my entire life. My mom raised me and we did not have much money so I took solace in food to comfort me. I was popular in school because of my friends and personality but I never had a girlfriend. As time went on, I gained more weight and spiraled into a deep depression. It seemed as though everywhere I turned my friends where the ones getting the girls and I was the fat kid who watched it all on the sidelines.

From as far back as I can remember I was always second place in this race. I remember my first dance at a summer campground, my friend and I were about eight at the time and we both liked this girl. He kissed her at the end of the night and I walked home alone feeling a sinking feeling in my gut. His mothers asked me what is wrong, I told her I wanted to kiss the girl and she replied with a caustic,

“Let him have his chance you will get it one day.”

That one day never came. This was the story of my life until I discovered the community but more about that later.

During my AFC days I met this girl (who became my girlfriend and still do not know how maybe it was pity) and we bonded. I thought she was the one who I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I waited to have sex with her because I wanted to respect her; she did not reciprocate that respect and slept with her friend telling me about it over the phone one night. I would have chopped off my arm for her if she asked me too and this relationship took a toll on my self-image. Anger turned to sadness, which turned to depression, and for 4 years, I barely acknowledged I existed.

I decided to pursue my Psychology degree and began taking classes on relationships. It was in those bleak and desperate times that I found the community. At first I paid very little attention to it and thought that it had to be a bunch of crap. Months would fly by and I would still remember seeing the book that would change my life, “The Game.” Finally, I decided to do something about it and really commit to seeing what this was all about. I read so much in the first couple of months that my eyes burned. Magic Bullets, the attraction forums, VA handbook and the list goes on. I got to the point that I would take the audio books and play them on my Ipod so I could squeeze in more time to learn. I started going to the gym, dropped 40 lbs already and have been on a weight lifting circuit. I learned to open a set, build attraction, qualify her, build comfort and then close. Three months into this journey I am starting to teach others the skills that I have acquired.

I want the pick up arts to enrich my life not define it. For me it is not about racking up lays, it is about building a life in which I am confidant and comfortable in ANY situation.
Like anything worth doing, it takes dedication and work but believe me it is worth it.

Thanks for listening to my journey