Myths of Pick Up: This is easy...

Let me assure you that nothing in this game is easy. People are always searching for the magic pill that will allow them instant results with women. Our society today is based on fast results and instant gratification but the harsh reality is that lasting change takes time and work. I cannot sell you instant change or promise you that this journey is easy. All I can tell you is that the reward is worth the struggle.

I have taught many people pick up and some have stuck with it and changed their lives forever and sadly others have realized that this game is hard and backed out only to slip back into old patterns. As an instructor I really do care about each and every student I speak to. I came from a guy who was over weight, depressed and suicidal to building a life of beautiful people around me constantly. When I have a bad day now, I have a phone full of people who would drop anything to see me. My world is based on excess and I have found a new life from the ashes of my old self.

Did any of this come easy? No.

From my posts maybe I led you to believe this was easy when it wasn’t. Maybe I made you think my success started with my first approach and not with the countless failures. Maybe I made you think that every set I opened was a success, that my game was built on principal rather then passion. Maybe you didn’t see that failure gave me strength, that my pain was my motivation. Maybe I led you to believe that pick up was a god given talent and not something I worked for EVERYDAY of my life. Maybe I made this look easy…. Or maybe.. You’re just making excuses.

If a seed could talk...

All around us there are marvels that take place that we may never see but they are the natural balance of this beautiful world. Let’s take for instance the life of a seed. Something so small and seemingly insignificant that many would take it for granted can produce an amazing result with enough time. The way seeds reproduce is unlike humans or animal, see the seed reproduces by dying.

If a seed could talk I think that it would have more wisdom to say in two sentences then most of the things humans have said in two centuries. The seed would tell us a lesson that transcends all human logic because the seed would say that to truly live your best life and become the best you….. you… have to die.

You have to die to your old habits and lifestyle and shed the things in this life that have kept you complacent and locked in fear. In life, like in pick up people want results as quick as possible but they sit and play video games for 12 hours, eat like shit and want attract models. Nothing about pick up is easy but nothing is more rewarding then being able to attract the people that you want in your life and doing what other people only talk about doing, changing your life.

The seed would tell us that you have to lay down what you are now and trust that with time, effort and pressure you will crack…. And it is in that cracking of your old shell that the beautiful inside is exposed to finally grow into the best you that was there all along. I can only imagine that the first seed was afraid to die on a theory that with time it would become something bigger then the contents of its shell.

We are all confined to the shell that we place on ourselves through accepting society’s norms and limiting our belief patterns. We are constantly living inside of the shells that we have created through our experiences and internal dialogue that we accept. The seed would argue that the shell is not the life that we create because if we just cast off our shells and die to these old ways we will grow to something that is 100 times bigger then what we can imagine. Tyler often says “what would you do and who would you be if fear didn’t exist.” The seed would argue that fear is part of our shell and if we just commit to letting it go, knowing that deep inside of us we possess something more we will do just fine.

It startles me how a seed can teach us so much about inner game.

Last Chance... and news!

There is a lot going on that I will be talking about soon but first thing is first... the Path to Pick Up!!

As you guys have read I have developed this 6 week super charged system to get your game on the right track much like I did when I started this entire transformation. I have gotten tons of responses from people who have shared with me their struggles in game and how they have tried and tired but cannot seem to make any progress. I too remember what it like before the community and the frustration that it brings and I want to give back to the people who really want this and for this reason the Path to Pick Up was created.

Here is the is just an example of what the Path to Pick Up is..

The way we break down each week is by three major categories: Inner Game, Outer Game and Lifestyle. These three foundations supply you with the most crucial elements you will need to master in order to possess the tools to pick up high quality women. Each week you are given assignments that will push your three elements of game more and more. Follow each assignment as listed through the week before continuing on to the next assignment. If you fail an assignment simple start it over.

This is your last chance to get this system for FREE no cost whatsoever attached. I have developed this system based on my personal results in field and countless hours of helping students with their game and now you have the opportunity to have the Path to Pick Up for free.

Email me NOW MaysonPUA@gmail.com and tell me you want the Path to Pick Up.

Next week I am going to start a series of interviews and guest posts from people who have changed my game. These are guys who have helped me on numerious occasions and I am sure will super charge your game! It is part of an interview series I call “Giving Value Back.” So check back for that starting next week

Finally, I wanted to tell you all that I have been working on developing new material that I want to share with you all VERY soon. Some of this stuff I have not seen in the community and it has broken new ground for me in my own game as of late.

P.S BIG ANNOUNCEMENT SOON !!!

Fundamentals... and major announcement

As many of you know I like to go back to fundamentals from time to time because I truly believe that if you have a strong foundation in game then the other smaller things tend to work themselves out. Let me break down what I consider to be fundamental game.

1) The ability to open and hook a set:

The first building block of game is the ability to successfully open and hook a set. You should be able to approach any set within reason and deliver a successful opener which causes the set to hook. This means that you are not constantly self doubting as to if it will work if she will like you etc.

2) The ability to illicit attraction without the neg:

There comes a point in game where you really don’t need neg’s anymore. When most people start they tend to over use neg theory as a defense against rejection as you progress in game and being to get good you stop using negs and as you become quite good you realize there is no such thing as rejection and you begin to give value rather then take it.

3) The ability to frame and reframe:

You start to understand how a frame works and how to reframe statements to figure out how to pump her buying temperature. The beginning stages of this are a fundamental of pick up and continues on later as you learn more.

There are more fundamentals that I believe are quite basic things like having a 20 minute repeatable stack that you can use from open to number close every time are really important for a foundation.

The reason I am brining this up is because I have completed a guide I call “The Path to Pick-Up.” It is a break down of three major categories of game:

Lifestyle, Inner Game and Outer Game.

It is a 6 week challenge for people who seriously want to improve their game and get this part of their lives under control. I am not selling this project or even giving it away right now what I want to do is slowly post sections of it for your feedback. I want YOU to have the ability to shape this project into something that will change your relationships with women forever!

Again this is NOT for sale.. I am going to give out my e-mail address and if you are interested in learning more about the “Path to Pick Up Challenge” shoot me an e-mail. I will hand pick people to go through this challenge and give some personal advice to.

If you are serious about getting good at this here is your opportunity.

MaysonPUA@gmail.com

Value...

I think one of the wisest things I have heard in the pick up community was from Jeffy when he said, “Are you a value giver or a value taker?” That phrase changed my game from being the cocky guy who lowers the value of women to being the guy who makes girls feel wonderful about themselves.

Value is a magnet that drags around our perceptions. If we perceive that our value is less then the hottest girl in a venue then our bodies react to that information. The way to fix these micro level issues is to understand what TRUE value represents. Society tells us that beauty is a direct correlation to value but we know that these things are not true. There are plenty of beautiful women who become addicted to drugs and waste their lives only to die alone and depressed. The other major factor is that beauty is really a common trait when you think about it. Go out to a local club and notice how many beautiful women you will see on a given weekend.

True value has nothing to do with looks or money it has to do with personality. When I approach a girl before I utter a word I really don’t know what her personality is going to be like. Is she going to be fun and playful or shut down and rude. Sure body language will give me an indicator but I don’t know so many things in the approach so who’s to say her value is higher then mine. The fact remains that perception is deception in pick up. What you perceive you create in reality and that is why it is so important to be your best self. Once you get a grasp on the concept that value is a tool in which you can screen potential mates then you will no longer fear beauty but react to it based on other factors.

Finally it is important to understand that men value the physical and women value the emotional. As men we own more gadgets and physical items in which we view as status and value then women. Our emotional connection to our 54’plasma TV is irrelevant because own the item and we feel as though the more items we acquire the more value we have. Women see value in the long term as opposed to the short term. A woman needs an emotional connection over a physical connection, though both are very important. To put it another way, men are turned on like a light switch and women are turned on like a volume knob. Understanding how value works between the sexes can help shape your game into that of being a value giver and making women feel as though they want you in their lives as opposed to the arrogant value taker which is the typical role for any man.

Lots of fish in the sea....

One of the easiest ways to improve your game is to create a mentality in which your failures become successes. This sounds very magical to most people and impossible to change but life is a frame in which you view your reality. One person’s trash is another person’s treasure. I want to introduce you to one of the most important concepts that can change your failures into successes with each approach, what is this thing? We call it the abundance mentality.

The abundance mentality is a frame of mine in which you understand that there are many options in this world when it comes to women and just because you failed once it does not dictate that you will fail forever.

People with an abundance mentality believe the following:

• "The more I open, the more there is to close."
• "The more I give value, the more value there is to give."
• "The more I learn, the more there is to learn."
• "People are great. They will help me reach my goals."

Abundance starts in your mind. The more you think abundantly, the more abundance you can enjoy. The more abundance you enjoy, the more success you will enjoy. The fact of the matter is that there are 6.6 billion people in this world 3.34 billion are female. To quote a famous movie,

“You are not special. Your are not a beautiful or unique snowflake. You are the same decaying organic matter as everything else.”

The best way to accomplish this is to eliminate 100% of all DOUBT of your success. Expect Abundance. What you create you will have plain and simple.

Finally, work at this. This is something that has changed my game and has produced a tremendous amount of results. For the people who think that this all came easy to me let me tell you that I have failed over and over and over again in my life…. And that is why I succeed

I want to hear from you.. EMAIL ME MAYSONPUA@GMAIL.COM

My Guide to Fashion...

You never get a second chance to make a first impression.

How we perceive a person is judged in a split second and this is why you will never get a second chance to make a first impression. Look at the following picture and what is your first impression.

Look at the next picture and what is your impression?

Women size you up in seconds and once you know this and understand it you should allow this to be an advantage rather then disadvantage. Fashion can be used to DHV you and add to your value constantly without you saying a thing. Without verbalizing anything you state that you are cultured, have social value and have physical attractiveness.

People ask all the time what is the quickest way to change your outer game. My answer is found here in fashion. There are steps that you can do right now to get instant results that will help your game but like all things, it takes knowledge and then action. That being said please note that being the most fashionable man in the world will not replace your lack of inner game. Becoming fashionable will increase your confidence, and positively influence your inner game.

First lets go over some sexy sterotypes:

-Rock Star
-Thug/Rapper
-Artist
-Hipster
-Wall-Street Guy in a suit
-Latin Lover/Club Player
-Metrosexual
-Skateboarder
-Surfer
-Punk
-Euro-Trash
-Dreadlock Guy
-Guy in Eyeliner
-Biker
-Goth Guy
-Mafia Guy

Personally I embrace a metro-rocker look that works well for my personality as well as my job. This look has taken me 9 months to fully get and there are times where I still add and take things away so understand that creating this “avatar” is a process just like pick up is a process that you learn over time.

6 Steps to Sexy Stereotyping

1. “What other people think of you is none of your business”

Understand that it is 100% irrelevant what other people think of you. You have to be willing to embrace the change no matter what your friends and family will say, after all you are here to better yourself and your success with women. Any change is hard at first but as people get accustom to it they too will see it’s benefits.

This point is best illustrated in the following story. I went shopping with my friend and he saw my shoes and wanted something similar. He just started getting involved in pick up and thought it would be a good investment. That night he went out with a bunch of friends to a movie and all the guys started ripping on him about how gay he looked. As they were doing this one of the guys girlfriends entered the movie theater and looked at the shoes and said, “Oh my God are those cowboy boots? I love them I am so much more attracted to you now.” All the guys stood there wide eyed and mouths open. By the end of the night they were all like hey man where did you get those.

2. Take an active interest in fashion

Knowledge is power plain and simple. The more you know about a topic the more you are going to be able to use that knowledge to tweak your own style.

3. Find a master model with your body type

If you are a big guy then find bigger guys who dress good. Same with tall, short or any other body type. Save pictures of these people!

4. Model your style after that person

Find a celebraty or someone famous who you want to model your style after and get a ton of pics of them so that you can reference these at any time. Here are some that I suggest:

These are a few.. Find one you like and google it for pictures.

5. Test it out

Go to the mall and don’t worry about game. If you have some friends who are girls bring them with you and ask their advice. Girls can help you with matching and what will look good on you so use their advice. Try stuff on and DO NOT BE AFRAID TO TRY NEW THINGS. Some of the best outfits that I own I got because I tried something that I thought looked stupid on.

6. Expand and refine it

You should be trying to convey the following when you wear an outfit:

Educated in cutting edge fashion
Well/interestingly groomed
Current and up to date
Understands Subtle Communication
Dominant, Attractive, Elite, Access to Resources

To do this you must expand and refine constantly so that you are getting the most bang for you buck. This should look effortless! PLEASE NOTE: (No woman ever wants to know how long it took you to get ready. Women want men, not boys that take longer to get ready than they do. Take any compliments about your outfit in stride; never let a woman know how hard you have worked on getting your look together. You always want to appear SMOOTH and EFFORTLESS.)

FIT, COLOR AND WTF TO DO??!?!

“Clothing is the outward expression of the inner person. It’s important to dress in a way that sends the right message but also looks effortless and natural. Wearing clothing that is inappropriate to your inner character is the biggest mistake a man can make in terms of fashion.” -Giorgio Armani

The #1 rule of looking good is GET CLOTHES THAT FIT CORRECTLY! I am willing to be that most people have no idea how clothes are supposed to fit! I can explain in in 6 pages of text or you can see for yourself so stop right now and watch this slide show and see how just getting clothes that fit make a drastic change.

http://men.style.com/gq/features/landing?id=content_6426

Now that you can see the example of how things SHOULD fit here are a couple of key concepts to fit.

Shirts and Blazers. The fit along your shoulders is most important. Generally speaking, the shoulder seam should be right at the point where your shoulder crests, or begins to fall sharply. As a general rule, most men wear shirts and jackets which are too big. When in doubt, go with the smaller size! The following is an example of a proper fitting shirt and pants combo!

Something that doesn’t fit….

And now….. Something that fits correctly on the same person.

Big difference!

A good blazer is something that is an investment but work the price! If you are a bigger guy go with pin stripes and a dark color, I recommend black or dark navy blue.

Jeans and Pants. Most people tend to buy too large. Buy your true waist size and inseam. Go to a tailor and get measured if you do not know what it is. I typically buy straight leg jeans because they will give you a much longer look in your legs. You want the jeans to fit snug because they will give a bit, just not so tight that we see the frank and beans.

Color primer
One rule that is essential is to figure out your base color. This means the color that works best for you. There are certain colors that everyone can wear: black, white and grey. Generally, you want to bring out the color of your eyes by matching a shirt with your eye color. I have a bright blue shirt that is flashy because my eyes are bright blue, you will be astounded how much it brings out your eye color. If you have brown eyes, brown, or tan will work well for you.

Shoes: Shoes get more attention the you guys can imagine. Shoes can make or break and outfit and it is one of the FIRST investments that anyone should make when it comes to changing your style. Personally, I am a big fan of Steve Madden, Mark Nasson and Aldo. I also really like boots as opposed to loafers most of the time and here are a couple of examples.

Here is another example of my white loafers and on the left are a nice pair of shoes from Aldo, can you tell who doesn’t know how to shop for shoes in this picture?

Rules to live by in fashion:

Always match your belt with your shoes. This is a good rule to follow and it keeps things simple. It's best to stay with traditional colors such a black, dark brown or a rich tan. I often wear a white belt as well with some bad ass Steve Madden white loafers and a white tie.

Socks. Wear dark socks period. So many people wear white socks and it is so over done. I wear black socks 99% of the time.

Finally, TRY NEW THINGS! You never know what you are going to look like until you try it out and see how it looks. When I go to a club I want to look different then other people but not stupid. You want to stand out but not in a bad way. Everyone wears pin stripe collared button downs. There are many people who go to clubs looking like this:

Now with a little effort and knowledge that same person can look like this:

The reaction I get is always positive from girls and it gives me an opportunity to stand out in more then one way. The key here is not to look like a clown but someone who looks like they are well dressed and it is congruent with who you are. Wearing a fuzzy top hat will not get you laid and chances are you will just look like a moron. My rule when I go out is to wear something around my neck a girl can play with, wear wrist accessories and stand out in a good way. I also tend to wear my aviators in the club a lot because I always get sarcastic comments about how it is not sunny in here etc. I want people to say something to me positive or negative because from there I turn the conversation on. I remember one time where this girl who had some chode following her around saw my tie at the club and came up to me and said wow that is really lame as she grabbed for it. I told her if I cared what she thought I would be that guy who was following her around. The point is, be uniquely you!

If you guys have any questions let me know I am more then happy to help you all out!

EMAIL: maysonpua@gmail.com