Value...

I think one of the wisest things I have heard in the pick up community was from Jeffy when he said, “Are you a value giver or a value taker?” That phrase changed my game from being the cocky guy who lowers the value of women to being the guy who makes girls feel wonderful about themselves.

Value is a magnet that drags around our perceptions. If we perceive that our value is less then the hottest girl in a venue then our bodies react to that information. The way to fix these micro level issues is to understand what TRUE value represents. Society tells us that beauty is a direct correlation to value but we know that these things are not true. There are plenty of beautiful women who become addicted to drugs and waste their lives only to die alone and depressed. The other major factor is that beauty is really a common trait when you think about it. Go out to a local club and notice how many beautiful women you will see on a given weekend.

True value has nothing to do with looks or money it has to do with personality. When I approach a girl before I utter a word I really don’t know what her personality is going to be like. Is she going to be fun and playful or shut down and rude. Sure body language will give me an indicator but I don’t know so many things in the approach so who’s to say her value is higher then mine. The fact remains that perception is deception in pick up. What you perceive you create in reality and that is why it is so important to be your best self. Once you get a grasp on the concept that value is a tool in which you can screen potential mates then you will no longer fear beauty but react to it based on other factors.

Finally it is important to understand that men value the physical and women value the emotional. As men we own more gadgets and physical items in which we view as status and value then women. Our emotional connection to our 54’plasma TV is irrelevant because own the item and we feel as though the more items we acquire the more value we have. Women see value in the long term as opposed to the short term. A woman needs an emotional connection over a physical connection, though both are very important. To put it another way, men are turned on like a light switch and women are turned on like a volume knob. Understanding how value works between the sexes can help shape your game into that of being a value giver and making women feel as though they want you in their lives as opposed to the arrogant value taker which is the typical role for any man.

Inner Game: Part 3 "Projected Value"

I titled this post "Projected Value" because we project our value in relation to a targets all the time.

When you see a girl you process your value compared to hers.

Read that sentence again. … Ok ONE MORE TIME. That is what you are doing when you are thinking about the approach. Basically value is a magnet, it is dragging around your perception all the time. Once you internalize that your value is a 10 and other potential approachable targets have a lower value because you don’t know them…. Yet.. you will start to over come the entire thing. Remember that being attracting to women is something you are not something you do.

Now, how can you tie this into inner game?

First make sure that you are writing about your thoughts, feelings and experiences.

Second, make sure that you are actually approaching.

How you can use meditation in combination with game. Well Hypnotica has some products that are really good for this same thing. Meditation will help with being high strung and can help with confidence if you use it properly. If you do get Hypnotica’s collection of confidence and the disk 2 meditation is WONDERFUL! I use that every night. Another awesome product that you can get easy is, Brian Weiss eliminating stress. I really like the self hypnosis he does in that cd.

The following exercise I use to help people highlight where they are (perceived-self) to where they want to be, (future-self)

Step 1: Highlight all the words that you think describe the ideal person you want to be, the person you believe is the full potential of who you are and will ever be.

attractive, beautiful, appealing, cool, spiritual, wise, nice, friendly, faithful, leader of men, strong, supportive, centered, ethical, principled, honest, warm, loving, tender, warmhearted, demonstrative, caring, kind, affectionate, cordial, hospitable, welcoming, cheerful, passionate, fiery, enthusiastic, zealous, arrogant, egocentric, confidant in social situations, sympathetic, humane, selfless, smart, independent, free, gentle, thoughtful, domineering, submissive, autonomous, creative, compassionate, self-sufficient, private, liberated, conventional, alpha, elegant, clever, stylish, intelligent, quick witted, charming, tidy neat, thoughtful, attentive, careful, watchful, alert, reliable, inspiring, inventive, resourceful, ingenious, productive, exciting, energetic, lively, vigorous, bouncy, active, joyful, blissful, pleased, ecstatic, cheery, rational, sensible, reasonable, complete, capable, genuine, proud, approachable, able to approach others, peaceful, honest, giving, nurturing, accomplished, whole, perfect, undivided, achiever, great, confident, compassionate, content, humble, unassuming, happy, satisfied, comfortable, at ease, relaxed, knowledgeable, skilled, proficient, expert, adept, rich, wealthy, affluent, prosperous, full, valuable, abundant mentality, fruitful, powerful, deep, prolific, understanding, dynamic, useful, helpful, constructive, beneficial, positive, functional, worthwhile, able to attract women, make positive choices, belief in yourself

Now count the number of words you circled in Step 1.

Step 2: Now highlight the words below that describe how you actually are at present.

attractive, beautiful, appealing, cool, spiritual, wise, nice, friendly, faithful, leader of men, strong, supportive, centered, ethical, principled, honest, warm, loving, tender, warmhearted, demonstrative, caring, kind, affectionate, cordial, hospitable, welcoming, cheerful, passionate, fiery, enthusiastic, zealous, arrogant, egocentric, confidant in social situations, sympathetic, humane, selfless, smart, independent, free, gentle, thoughtful, domineering, submissive, autonomous, creative, compassionate, self-sufficient, private, liberated, conventional, alpha, elegant, clever, stylish, intelligent, quick witted, charming, tidy neat, thoughtful, attentive, careful, watchful, alert, reliable, inspiring, inventive, resourceful, ingenious, productive, exciting, energetic, lively, vigorous, bouncy, active, joyful, blissful, pleased, ecstatic, cheery, rational, sensible, reasonable, complete, capable, genuine, proud, approachable, able to approach others, peaceful, honest, giving, nurturing, accomplished, whole, perfect, undivided, achiever, great, confident, compassionate, content, humble, unassuming, happy, satisfied, comfortable, at ease, relaxed, knowledgeable, skilled, proficient, expert, adept, rich, wealthy, affluent, prosperous, full, valuable, abundant mentality, fruitful, powerful, deep, prolific, understanding, dynamic, useful, helpful, constructive, beneficial, positive, functional, worthwhile, able to attract women, make positive choices, belief in yourself

Now count the number of words you circled in Step 2.

Step 3. Where are you now and what are you going to do to obtain the things that you want? Spend time creating a plan and journaling how you are going to obtain these things to be the ideal person you want to be.